Building Relationships by adding value to them.

Building Relationships by adding value to them.

BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS
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“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”

– Lisa Kleypas
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Relationships should not be left to chance. Relationships are one of the most rewarding of human experiences, above and beyond other gifts that life has to offer. In fact, one study found that 73 per cent of over three hundred university student participants were willing to sacrifice the majority of their goals in life for a romantic relationship. But despite the importance we assign to our most intimate bonds, most of us still know very little about the science behind romantic relationships and allow ourselves all too often to be guided by misconceptions and myths.

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EIGHT THINGS YOU CAN START DOING TODAY TO STOP PUSHING LOVE AWAY

1. Learn to identify deactivating strategies. Don’t act on your impulse.

When you’re excited about someone but then suddenly have a gut feeling that s/he is not right for you, stop and think. Is this actually a deactivating strategy? Are all those small imperfections you’re starting to notice really your attachment system’s way of making you step back? Remind yourself that this picture is skewed and that you need intimacy despite your discomfort with it. If you thought s/he was great, to begin with, you have a lot to lose by pushing him or her away.

2. De-emphasize self-reliance and focus on mutual support. When your partner feels s/he has a secure base to fall back on (and doesn’t feel the need to work hard to get close), and when you don’t feel the need to distance yourself, you’ll both be better able to look outward and do your own thing. You’ll become more independent and your partner will be less needy.

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3. Find a secure partner. People with secure attachment styles tend to make their anxious and avoidant partners more secure as well. Someone with an anxious attachment style, however, will exacerbate your avoidance—often in a perpetual vicious cycle. Given a chance, we recommend you choose the secure route. You’ll experience less defensiveness, less fighting, and less anguish.

4. Be aware of your tendency to misinterpret behaviours. Negative views of your partner’s behaviours and intentions infuse bad vibes into the relationship. Change this pattern! Recognize this tendency, notice when it happens, and look for a more plausible perspective. Remind yourself that this is your partner, you chose to be together, and that maybe you’re better off trusting that they do have your best interests at heart.

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5. Make a relationship gratitude list. Remind yourself on a daily basis that you tend to think negatively of your partner or date. It is simply part of your makeup if you have an avoidant attachment style. Your objective should be to notice the positive in your partner’s actions. This may is not an easy task, but with practice and perseverance, you’ll gradually get the hang of it. Take time every evening to think back on the events of the day. List at least one way your partner contributed, even in a minor way, to your well-being, and why you’re grateful they’re in your life.

6. Fix the phantom ex. When you find yourself idealizing that one special ex-partner, stop and acknowledge that he or she is not (and never was) a viable option. By remembering how critical you were of that relationship— and how leery you were of committing—you can stop using him or her as a deactivating strategy and focus on someone new.

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7. Forget about “the one.” We don’t dispute the presence of soul mates in our world. On the contrary, we wholeheartedly believe in the soulmate experience. But it is our belief that you have to be an active part of the process. Don’t wait until “the one” who fits your checklist shows up and then expect everything to fall into place. Make them into your soul mate by choosing them out of the crowd, allowing them to get close (using the strategies we offer in this chapter) and making them a special part of you.

8. Adopt the distraction strategy. As an avoidant, it’s easier to get close to your partner if there’s a distraction (remember the experiment with a distraction task). Focusing on other things—taking a hike, going sailing, or preparing a meal together—will allow you to let your guard down and make it easier to access your loving feelings. Use this little trick to promote closeness in your time together.

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When we aren’t curious in conversations we judge, tell, blame and even shame, often without even knowing it, which leads to conflict.”

-The Power Of Curiosity

How to Have real conversations that create collaboration, innovation and understanding use communication to own your worth and show others theirs, to repair broken bridges and show you care.

– Sam Owen

THE FIVE PRINCIPLES OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION FOR BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS

Like the concept of effective communication, the principles are also very straightforward:

1. Wear your heart on your sleeve. Effective communication requires being genuine and completely honest about your feelings. Be emotionally brave!

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2. Focus on your needs. The idea is to get your needs across. When expressing your needs, we are always referring to needs that take your partner’s well-being into consideration as well. If they end up hurting him or her, you’re sure to get hurt too; after all, you and your partner are an emotional unit. When expressing your needs, it’s helpful to use verbs such as need, feel, and want, which focus on what you are trying to accomplish and not on your partner’s shortcomings:

• “I need to feel confident in the relationship. When you chat up the waitress, I feel like I’m on thin ice.”

• “I feel devalued when you contradict me in front of your friends. I need to feel that you respect my opinions.”

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• “I want to know I can trust you. When you go to bars with your friends, I worry a lot that you’ll cheat on me.”

3. Be specific. If you speak in general terms, your partner may not understand exactly what you really need, which may lower his or her chances of getting it right. State precisely what is bothering you: • When you don’t stay the night . . .

• When you don’t check up on me every day…

• When you said you loved me and then took it back…

4. Don’t blame. Never make your partner feel selfish, incompetent, or inadequate. Effective communication is not about highlighting the other person’s shortcomings, and making accusations will quickly lead you away from the point and into a duelling match. Make sure to find a time when you’re calm to discuss things. You’ll find that attempting to use effective communication when you’re on the verge of exploding is a contradiction in terms—you’ll most likely sound angry or judgmental.

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5. Be assertive and non-apologetic. Your relationship needs are valid—period. Though people with different attachment styles may not see your concerns as legitimate, they’re essential for your happiness, and expressing them authentically is crucial to effective communication. This point is especially important if you have an anxious attachment style because our culture encourages you to believe that many of your needs are illegitimate. But whether they are legitimate or not for someone else is beside the point. They are essential for your happiness, and that is what’s important.

Building relationships is rare..’ Make the commitment Wholeheartedly. Just do it and do it for both of you. Love doesn’t have to be perfect, but it needs to be true. Napz Cherub Palazzo

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Don’t Lose Sight of These Facts:

• Your attachment needs are legitimate.

• You shouldn’t feel bad for depending on the person you are closest to—it is part of your genetic makeup.

• A relationship, from an attachment perspective, should make you feel more self-confident and give you peace of mind. If it doesn’t, this is a wake-up call!

• And above all, remain true to your authentic self—playing games will only distance you from your ultimate goal of finding true happiness, be it with your current partner or with someone else.

For the two of us, home isn’t a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.

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5 Easy Ways to Develop Listening Skills.

5 Easy Ways to Develop Listening Skills.

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Listening skills are a must. Why? Well, in this fast-paced world, people are caught up with their own thoughts and work. They rarely even have time to listen to another person and often just hear what one has to say, without understanding much about it. Listening is the art of effective communication. It requires you to hear what is being said carefully and understanding it in the manner and context in which it was said. People often listen to others only to reply to them or to show their interest in them without actually understanding them.

Here’s how you can create opportunities in life.

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Having great listening skills will separate you from the herd and make you an approachable person. People want someone to understand them, their thoughts, their worries, their situation. Listening to them properly will not only let you show empathy towards them but also help you find ways to assist them in their difficulties.

Here’s how you can have a positive spirit.

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Why should we develop listening skills?

Listening is an important skill to have. Listening is the act of actively hearing and understanding what is being said. We have been hearing a lot of people since we were born, but only when we understand them, we truly get what they mean to say. Only when we understand them, we feel how they feel and respond accordingly.

Here’s how you can be patient.

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Active listening skills build relationships. By responding appropriately, you send a message to the speaker that you are a good listener. Effective communication prevents misunderstanding and gets the job done in an efficient way. In a team or a group, listening skills help them feel heard and respected. Research has shown that when people feel heard, they feel less frustrated, and their productivity increases. In this era, where people have no time to pause and listen to another, with listening skills you can grab their attention.

Here’s why you should think positive.

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How to develop listening skills?

Listening skills are not something we are born with; it needs to be developed. It can take a good amount of time and a lot of practice to learn to listen.

Step 1: Face the speaker and maintain eye contact.

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Talking to someone while they scan the room, study a computer screen, or gaze out the window is like trying to hit a moving target. How much of the person’s divided attention you are getting? Fifty per cent? Five per cent? If the person were your child you might demand, “Look at me when I’m talking to you,” but that’s not the sort of thing we say to a lover, friend or colleague.

In most Western cultures, eye contact is considered a basic ingredient of effective communication. When we talk, we look each other in the eye. That doesn’t mean that you can’t carry on a conversation from across the room, or from another room, but if the conversation continues for any length of time, you (or the other person) will get up and move. The desire for better communication pulls you together.

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Step 2: Be attentive, but relaxed.

Now that you’ve made eye contact, relax. You don’t have to stare fixedly at the other person. You can look away now and then and carry on like a normal person. The important thing is to be attentive. The dictionary says that to “attend” another person means to:

  • be present
  • give attention
  • apply or direct yourself
  • pay attention
  • remain ready to serve

Mentally screen out distractions, like background activity and noise. In addition, try not to focus on the speaker’s accent or speech mannerisms to the point where they become distractions. Finally, don’t be distracted by your thoughts, feelings, or biases.

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Step 3: Keep an open mind.

Listen without judging the other person or mentally criticizing the things she tells you. If what she says alarms you, go ahead and feel alarmed, but don’t say to yourself, “Well, that was a stupid move.” As soon as you indulge in judgmental bemusements, you’ve compromised your effectiveness as a listener.

Listen without jumping to conclusions. Remember that the speaker is using language to represent the thoughts and feelings inside her brain. You don’t know what those thoughts and feelings are and the only way you’ll find out is by listening.

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Step 4: Listen to the words and try to picture what the speaker is saying.

Allow your mind to create a mental model of the information being communicated. Whether a literal picture or an arrangement of abstract concepts, your brain will do the necessary work if you stay focused, with senses fully alert. When listening for long stretches, concentrate on, and remember, keywords and phrases.

When it’s your turn to listen, don’t spend the time planning what to say next. You can’t rehearse and listen at the same time. Think only about what the other person is saying. 

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Step 5: Don’t interrupt and don’t impose your “solutions.”

Children used to be taught that it’s rude to interrupt. I’m not sure that message is getting across anymore. Certainly, the opposite is being modelled on the majority of talk shows and reality programs, where loud, aggressive, in-your-face behaviour is condoned, if not encouraged.

Interrupting sends a variety of messages. It says:

  • “I’m more important than you are.”
  • “What I have to say is more interesting, accurate or relevant.”
  • “I don’t care what you think.”
  • “I don’t have time for your opinion.”
  • “This isn’t a conversation, it’s a contest, and I’m going to win.”
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We all think and speak at different rates. If you are a quick thinker and an agile talker, the burden is on you to relax your pace for the slower, more thoughtful communicator—or for the guy who has trouble expressing himself.

When listening to someone talk about a problem, refrain from suggesting solutions. Most of us don’t want your advice anyway. If we do, we’ll ask for it. Most of us prefer to figure out our solutions. We need you to listen and help us do that. Somewhere way down the line, if you are bursting with a brilliant solution, at least get the speaker’s permission. Ask, “Would you like to hear my ideas?”

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Here’s why you can rely on your Siblings.

Here’s why you can rely on your Siblings.

YOU CAN RELY ON YOUR SIBLINGS. WHY YOU CAN RELY ON PEOPLE. WHY YOU CAN DEPEND ON SIBLINGS. YOU CAN DEPEND ON YOUR BROTHER. YOU CAN DEPEND ON YOUR SISTER.

Every person with a sibling knows what pain their brother can be. They’ll also tell you that they could never imagine life without their siblings. They are always a blessing in disguise.

A brother will always stand by you and try to give you a helping hand when you need it. In this article, we will see why your brother is your best friend.

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He always knows when someone’s not good enough for you

Whenever you go through a horrible breakup, your little brother will be the first to put it all in perspective by reminding you the guy “had a gut anyway” or was “too dumb” for you. Oddly enough, when the tears dry up and your tunnel vision clears, you’ll realize he was actually right.

Here’s how you can have a positive spirit.

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He loves you unconditionally, even knowing all your faults

You may be daddy’s little girl, but I promise you, daddy doesn’t know half of what you’ve really been up to; whereas, your brother is the one who will hold the window open for you while you sneak out.

He’s seen you at your worst and loves you regardless.

Here’s how you can be patient.

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He will always defend you

Who needs a bodyguard when you have a little brother? Ready to jump to your aid at a moment’s notice, he’s been playing your knight in shining armour long before Prince Charming decided to show up.

Here’s why you should think positive.

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He makes you look good in front of your parents

If you fit the standard big sis/little bro mould, chances are your little brother makes you look good. Every time he leaves empty beer cans in the basement or fails yet another class, your parents get a little more forgiving about your own indiscretions. It’s nice to be “the good child.”

Here’s how you can become successful in life.

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He’s the only other person who speaks your language

Have you ever tried to be discreet with a friend or colleague and he or she just doesn’t catch on? With your brother, you never have that problem.

You two can communicate with a look, a la “Bridesmaids,” and always know what the other is thinking. You have the same slang and inside jokes that only the two of you know, basically your own language.

Here’s how you can overcome the fear of trying new things.

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He makes you laugh

In addition to speaking the same language, you have the same sense of humour. You grew up with the same jokes and watched the same comedians growing up.

You can feel free to laugh about or share things with your little brother that others might judge you for because he probably finds them funny, too.

Here’s how you can focus on success.

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He keeps your secrets

Your little brother knows that you’ve had shameful moments, and while he’ll tease mercilessly for them, he’ll never expose you or your secrets. You’re safe with him, even at your low points.

Here’s how you can be courageous.

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He values your advice

Your little brother looks up to you. Despite seeing you hungover or in a complete manic state, he still thinks you’re the bee’s knees and strives to be like you one day. He’ll ask for fashion advice, dating advice and even career advice when he’s ready because he values your opinion.

Here’s how you can be a good listener.

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You can pick me up anytime, even if you haven’t talked in weeks

Unlike a friendship, you don’t have to work at keeping a relationship with your brother alive. He will be there for you even if you talked two days ago or two months ago. Life gets busy, and we don’t always get a chance to keep up with our loved ones, especially if they live far away. You and your brother can pick you up anytime, right where you left off.

Here’s how you can be focused.

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He’s your biggest supporter

Sure, your mom is proud of you, but your little brother is in awe of you. He can’t fathom how you can be so successful at such a young age. He screams the loudest at all your graduations and brags about you to all his friends.

Here’s how you can overcome the fear of losing in sports.

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He keeps you humble

At the same time, he’s not going to let you get a big head. The minute he starts to think you’re getting a little too self-assured, he’ll bring you back to reality by referencing a repressed and mortifying moment only he remembers, making you feel like an awkward kid again.

No worries, though, since you also do the same for him.

Here’s how you can develop humility.

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He goes out of his way for you

Your little brother will stop at Ben and Jerry’s and get your favourite ice cream, even if it requires him driving 30 minutes out of his way to do so.

With a little prodding, he’d go to the ends of the earth for you because you’re his big sister and he loves you. — that, and he’s going to want you to remember that favour next time he needs you to bail him out of a jam.

Along with knowing that you can rely on your siblings, Here’s how you can have a winning attitude.

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Here’s why Secrets shouldn’t exist in a Family.

Here’s why Secrets shouldn’t exist in a Family.

WHY SECRETS SHOULDN’T EXIST. SECRETS IN A FAMILY. SECRETS BETWEEN PEOPLE. HAVING SECRETS. CONSEQUENCES OF SECRETS.

Did you grow up in a family where secrets were kept from family members? Were secrets kept from you? Were these secrets really hidden or did everyone know or suspect something was being hidden?

During my years of experience working with families, I have come across situations where the most unbelievable types of information were kept hidden from someone.

WHY SECRETS SHOULDN’T EXIST. SECRETS IN A FAMILY. SECRETS BETWEEN PEOPLE. HAVING SECRETS. CONSEQUENCES OF SECRETS.

Some examples of family secrets:

1) A child is not told that he is not the biological son of his father who actually adopted him when he was born. However, he appears in a photograph with his parents on the day they were married.

2) A young woman is raped when she is in college. She keeps this a secret from her family, friends, and the police. This secret stays with her for ten years before she finally reveals it to her therapist.

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3) A father of young children has a dark secret known by no one but his wife. He wears women’s underwear under his clothes. He hides this when he is out of the house but the underwear shows when he is at home. He and his wife deny the fact that everyone in the family probably suspects what he is doing.

4) Two sons are raised by their mother after she divorces their father. A curtain of secrecy is kept by the mother so that the two boys never learn much about their father or his family. Later in life, the older boys, now men, meet the father and his family, never telling his younger brother or his mother.

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5) A woman knows she is adopted but her parents fail to tell her that her biological mother is alive and has made inquiries about her because she wanted to meet her.

6) A woman has alternated between two men who she dated for many years: the man she finally married and the former boyfriend who she couldn’t give up. Although the two men know each other, the husband is unaware that his wife meets the other man at least twice per week. She cannot bear the thought of giving up either man.

7) A wife has good reason to believe that her family is financially secure because her husband is a very successful businessman. What she does not know is that he has a gambling addiction and they are on the verge of bankruptcy because of the enormous gambling debts he has accumulated.

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One of the most toxic problems confronting many families is the existence of secrets that prevent open communication and ultimately lead to serious health and mental health problems for family members. In the end, some families are unable to maintain their cohesiveness because of family secrets. Yet, there is little written about family secrets and their impact on marriages, children, and kinship relationships. In this essay, we will explore why people keep secrets, how they affect relationships and the types of problems that emerge as a result of secrecy.

It is important to stress that it is sometimes better to not reveal a secret – if it will cause undue and unnecessary damage with no benefit. However, it is the belief of this therapist that most secrets are better brought out into the open.

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Motivations for Secrecy in Families:

Shame is a powerful motive for keeping secrets.

Some of the categories of things about which people feel shame:

A) Divorce: When I was a child divorce was rare compared with today. For most people, it was embarrassing to admit to divorce. It was not unusual to attempt to hide a divorce from the community. My parents were divorced when I was 3 years old. When I became school age, I was instructed by my family to say that my father had died if asked by the teacher.

B) Mental Illness: Even today, when the public knows more than ever about mental illness, many families continue to maintain a shroud of secrecy around a relative who suffers from one of the psychoses, such as schizophrenia. Years ago these feelings of shame were so powerful that schizophrenic family members were permanently locked away in mental institutions where they were never seen or heard from. Other families locked their mentally ill relative in a room and maintained isolation and secrecy about this person.

C) Rape: I have a number of female patients who were raped either during their early adolescence, late adolescence or adulthood, and who kept the crime a complete secret. These survivors of violent rape attacks blamed themselves for the rape and continued to feel guilty well into late adulthood.

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D) Women: Sexual issues and various types of sexually transmitted diseases are sources of extreme shame and embarrassment for women because they fear that they will be judged as promiscuous if they admit to a boyfriend that they have an STD. In this case, I am referring to the less deadly types of STD’s such as Chlamydia and herpes, rather than the more serious diseases such as HIV, which has this as well as other issues surrounding it. I have seen many cases in which a woman is reluctant to begin a relationship because she fears rejection if she admits to having an STD.

E) Adoption: Even today, some families treat adoption as something to be ashamed of. Perhaps this has to do with the fear that they will be judged by others for not being able to have their own children. In addition, there are those parents who fear that if their children learn that they are adopted, they will want to find their biological parents and turn away from their adopted ones. As a result, there are those unfortunate families who keep the adoption a secret from their children.

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F) Alcoholism or Drug Addiction: Some attempt to hide their drug addiction for fear of losing their jobs and others fear the loss of their loved ones if they admit to their addiction. The fear of judgment is a powerful motivator for secrecy because people find it difficult to admit, even to themselves, that they have an addiction. Yet, the possibility of recovery dictates that the addict recognize the addiction and find help.

G) Job Loss: In our highly competitive society in which success is measured by the amount of money that you make, being laid off, downsized or fired from a job is experienced as extremely painful and leads to feelings of depression for many people. Men feel most stigmatized by losing their jobs because so much of their self worth is measured by their ability to earn a living for their families.

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There are actually cases in which a father has lied to his children about his work status, pretending to the child that he still has his old job. In one case, the particular father went to work driving a taxi cab, changed his clothes at the garage to fit that of a driver and tried to make a living in this way so that his children and neighbours would not know the truth.

H) Extramarital Affairs: In example number 6 above, the woman lived a double life. The lover knew of the husband and wanted her to leave the marriage and be with him. She didn’t want to leave her husband because she did not believe the lover could maintain a serious relationship leading to marriage.

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