How To Be A Good Father:
Importance to be a Good Father:
Who Is A Father?
A father is not one who just gives baby but acts as a role model, Supporter, Motivator, And Life Saver for their children.
And also a father must be an example for their children as because children learn everything from their parents it’s whether mother or father… So as a father role one should be aware to act the way the child wants to.
In today’s modern world especially parents who work in the IT field are always busy with their work… Speaking calls for hours, sitting on the big screen for 12 + hours, and even more they don’t cook foods in the home they just order them online. It does not matter but your children’s life is mostly matters right?… What they do is just working too long for hours and they can’t able to listen to their children. Or even they didn’t consider them…
It is not wrong but we should make at least 20 minutes to get listen to our children in everything needs… As you failed to listen makes children think of our parents doesn’t get the affection for me… Even it is a small baby they get affected a lot.
So make time for your children to see how are they doing… Even you do not work from home just after coming house, go to the children and play with them… So your child’s mental ability doesn’t affect.
And the more important thing is we should teach our children the ability of money, how it comes, what to do? , How long it takes. And many more. As because in today’s world every father brought everything to their children what they ask… This impacts the children to not know about the value of money.
And how the hard works result in every single penny you spent… So the first thing you have to do is to avoid buying the things everything your child asks for because if you buying everything they ask, then later on in life they would ask for expensive things or even they ask the thing which is more costly than your income.
For example, your salary is $1000 but your child asks for a $2000 cost iPhone then it is not possible to buy… Which makes them feel our father doesn’t buy anything… Some children take it positively and some will take it as negative, so it’s better to teach a lesson about money in their early life. Once you heard the line said by Ronaldo(Football Champion) one day my junior jr asked for iPhone but I didn’t buy as because he wants to know that affording one thing is not easy describes a beautiful speech to the whole conference… But not only there but also for the whole father role…
The father’s main role is to make their children act in a good manner by treating everyone respectfully, spending time with people, and especially setting a good career…
So always make eyes on your children fill up their needs not wants… And also remember to teach lessons on how to see the world and how to handle any situation and main thought how to treat everyone…
A man can take numerous titles in his Life but being a Father is the most wonderful title he could ever achieve. At the same time, the burden of responsibilities increases on him, and also fears that what if he could not prove himself to be a good father?
A good father doesn’t mean to be perfect all the time after all we all are human. It is very important for every man to be a good human being before becoming a good father so that his children can admire you and make you their role model. And It’s a fact that if you provide a quality environment and give them good values then it will help you to give them good education and upbringing.
The children’s well-being, strength, education, attitude, and progress all depend upon how they are being treated and a good father knows how to treat his children and respect them. So, it’s really important to spend quality time with family and try to be friendly with them so that they can share their problems, happiness, and pain with you. Try to understand your children’s necessities, have fun with them, know their likes and dislikes, teach them new skills and the most important is discipline.
Here are some tips you can follow to be a Good Father:
There is no panacea treatment to be a good father but I have some tips that I want to share with you guys.
1) Know your Responsibilities:
A good father is responsible enough to provide financial as well as emotional support to his children. He provides his children with the best he can afford for them. He will never ignore if his children asking him for help because he doesn’t want his children to feel that they have no one to listen to them. He will appreciate his children when his children will do well and give them the strength to bear the failure.
2) Never Beat or Spank your children:
To improve your children, beating them is not the right way, by doing this you are fostering violence and this affects the child mentally. And gradually they reduce their respect for you. Instead of abusing his children, a good father handles them with love and care. He knows many more options which are far better than violence. Using violence is teaching children that
aggression will be the only alternative to deal with situations.
3) Build Trust with your kids:
Always be honest with your children, have the guts, tell the truth, and appreciate them to be honest. Don’t make false promises to your children it will adversely affect them. By doing this they will not feel safe sharing their secrets with you. A good father never breaks his children’s trust. If he promises something, he also fulfills it.
4) Be their Role Model:
To be your children’s role model you should follow the advice that you are expecting your children to follow. Set your goals, implement the action plan, and then achieve them, if they see you doing this then they will also get motivated to organize their things in life. These actions make them self-disciplined. And never let yourself fall into bad habits, it will destroy your children’s life and career.
5) Be a Good Listener:
Listen carefully to your family and respond to them by nodding your head or by any means. Most importantly look into their eyes while having a conversation with them. Give your complete attention so that they can feel that you are interested in listening to them. Don’t think of anything else at that time, just focus on what they are telling you. Also, don’t start criticizing in the middle of a conversation if they are saying something which you don’t agree with, and let them finish.
6) Protect your Family:
Good fathers protect their families from all the odds. He will try to remove all the obstacles in your way as much as he can. He can’t see his children in pain, unhappy, and let them face any bad experience in their life. He aware his children of the consequences of making wrong choices. . He will teach his children good lessons for life so that they become responsible adults
in future.
7) Encourage your children:
A good father encourages his children to take the right steps in their life and appreciate them. Praise them even if they do anything wrong by mistake. A lot of fathers spoil their children’s future by scolding them if they do anything wrong unintentionally and these children start doubting themselves which reduces their self-confidence. Make them believe that Yes they can overcome any situation.
8) Be Affectionate:
Make your Children feel that they are special to you and you are proud of them because your affection shapes your children’s life and mental health. Even Science believes that your affection and love for your children results in lifelong positive outcomes in their life. It will also build a good relationship between you and your children.
9) Apologise for your action:
If you raise your voice or do something that your children don’t expect from you then you should feel free to apologize and ask them to forgive you, this will bring a forgiving attitude to your children. To be frank, saying sorry to your children strengthens your bond and also makes them learn answerable for every action.
10) Family Meal is Important:
A good father eats with his family at least once a day, this brings all the family members together. Everyone shares their experiences, laugh and have healthy discussions. If you are unable to have a meal with your family due to any reason just try at least to go for an outing.
11) Make Available For Your Child
In today’s world, several parents have been working from home since the corona spread… This is a good option to stay safe but in their homes, they are not even seeing the child because of work pressure it is true as since they work from home have more pressure than going to the office and work.
But we should not stick with the reason always, at least spend 30minutes of every 2 hours with your children so that your child could not affect by any mental stress… As because if you left the child without listening they start thinking of my parent is not listening to me.. Which makes the child’s mental health severe damage… So try to stick with your child at least every 30minutes of long work…
12) Route Map For Your Children
Yeah, Be a father is just not paying their food, education fee, etc… But also the way for your children’s life. You should teach him how to travel in life, how to see the mistakes, what if I got problems always and how to overcome them and finally how to behave with others…
These are the major important things to learn as soon as earlier in your child’s life. But how can they learn that’s why as a father you should help him with that. Not only this but also you should be a map for their career options. After completion of higher secondary education, they stuck with what degree to study so you should join hands with them and help to solve their career confusions… Be a Route Map In Everything of Your Childs Life.
13) Communicate Regularly
Why communicate regularly?
It helps your child to increase communication skills as well as they felt the attention of yours… Which helps me not to think like my father is not listening… So make sure to communicate in everything your child did. For example, if your child came home from school then ask how the day went, what are the things you learned in school, Is there any Homework given. Like that.
So they show interest in you because you are listening to your child. Make your communication with your child your routine work. Which helps your child’s improvement in communication, listening skills stronger…
Communicate with your children and help them with all their flaws.
14) Make Trip Plans With Your Child
This is the best way to make your children feel happier as because this is common that going trip is everyone’s favorite even for adult also so think of children they live trips more than adults so don’t miss the opportunity by avoiding trips. Just take your child to the new cities, new people, new dishes, etc…
This makes them learn a lot more in their early life as well as they seek more and more interests in you as because you make them feel happier… Even it is good to go trips because our mind will be satisfied and refreshed when we do something new so think of your child in that, which makes their mind more clear and seek happiness in their face… So at least go for two trips per year with your children to give your children a new experience and happiness…
15) Punish When Necessary
Yeah, absolute truth to follow as a father, as because when your child did something inappropriate you must have to punish him by scolding or beating, because when you live that… Then they don’t know which is bad and which is good and even they don’t act in a good manner so punishing when necessary, is important as a father.
This will be impossible for a single child-parent to beat or scold but it is easy means congratulations you are in the right way as the father but not means then you have to stop your emotions and start taking steps to stop your child from doing inappropriate things… Because it seems to be sad for scolding or beating but if you don’t take steps then it will result badly in their future. So in earlier itself try to explain which to do and which is not to… And if mistakes occur make erase them as a father by punishing them. So it won’t exist again…
16) Rewarding Much As Punishing
What does it mean? Nothing, if your child did mistakes correcting them by punishing is good… But as well as if your children did something good rewarding as much is must as compared with punishing… So your child won’t get irritated with yourself because if you play rewarding and punishing equally they would know which to do and which do not, so they learned it and if they are going to do Something wrong they would remember the punishment scenario so they won’t do it again… But the rewarding scenario is happier for them so they repeat it. In which they will do good. So Make sure to Stick with Rewarding as much as punishing.
And the most important thing is rewarding means nothing the appreciation you give to your children by words but some parents will reward them with gift or some with words… But the actual truth is rewarding with anything makes your child happier so don’t be confused with rewarding matters just do it by anything whether a gift or a sweet word…
Those Six steps must be followed as a father to make your children good as well as respect you much… So be consistent in those steps without regret and make sure to watch your child’s chances of changing so you would get an idea for upgrading them in their upcoming life.
# !! Be A Good Father!!
How to be a good father – Conclusion:
In the end, we conclude that to be a good father you must have a good heart, appreciate your children, support your children when they needed you the most, teach good lessons to your family, be a role model, spend quality time with family and always ready to protect his family from any situation and give unconditional love to your family. Always remember you are the most responsible member of your family.
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