How to handle negative people?

We always face hurting people in our lives and we feel very bad after meeting them so read this article on now how to handle negative people in life?

In our life, we must have encountered mean, hurting, and negative people. As research says 1 out of 4 individuals are mean, hurting, and negative. These negative people have problems with each and everything – in their life and in other’s life. Where ever these negative people go they deteriorate the positive energy. They find fault in everything.

To understand how to handle negative people lets first look into what exactly negative thinking is on the biological level so here is a broader view:

Human has 4 dimensions in mind:

What they think – the thought level – the cognitive model

What they feel – the feeling level – the emotional model

What they say – the spoken discourse (communicating, listening, speaking) – the language model

What they do – the behavior level – the action level

Now logical mind does all the thinking and the emotional mind is the energy source. The logical mind has all the thinking now this thinking either can be positive or it can be negative. The logical mind is made up of neurons and it works in a unidirectional way. If we command our logical mind to think in a positive direction then it will only think all positive and if we command it in a negative direction then it will only think all negative.

For example, let say we want to think benefits of mobile phone then we will get all the good points of the mobile phone as it helps us to connect with other, because of this our human race is evolving faster, etc and if we want to think in negative direction then we get all the problems like the mobile phone is harmful to birds, mobile phone is responsible for less face to face human interaction, etc.

So negative thinking people command their logical mind to think in the negative direction and positive thinking people command their mind to think in a positive direction. The emotional mind just exaggerates by giving energy to the thought, if it is negative it becomes negative energy and if it is positive it becomes positive energy. So first we think, then that thinking gets amplified by our feeling and then accordingly we act.

Now, this negative thought when get mixed with the energy it becomes negative energy and this negative energy is not good for our health. We get negative emotions because of this like sadness, fear, anger, disgust, or aversion. Negative thinking people are fearful. Negative people impact others because energy is contagious. They spread negative energy and other people who are in their immediate contact also become negative at least for a short duration.

Like if some negative energy person comes and says a hurting thing then if we can make ourselves positive fast then we can overcome it in a short duration but if we don’t know how to make ourselves positive then it might take a longer duration to become normal again. Most of the time if someone says us negative thing then we also become negative and react negatively to them and that leads to a fight and we deteriorate our health also.

These negative thinking people get hurt very easily. Even if we say one small negative thing to them they go into a negative thinking process and either become sad or angry or depressed. So it is very easy to hurt them. They are always ready for the fight.

Positive thinking people are:

• MORE WILLING TO CHANGE
• MORE WILLING TO ADMIT FAILURE
• MORE WILLING TO DISCUSS ISSUES
• MORE WILLING TO LEARN FROM OTHERS
• MORE WILLING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE PROBLEM ARE HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL

Negative thinking people are :

• LESS WILLING TO CHANGE
• LESS WILLING TO ADMIT FAILURE
• LESS WILLING TO DISCUSS ISSUES
• LESS WILLING TO LEARN FROM OTHERS
• LESS WILLING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE PROBLEM ARE SAD AND UNSUCCESSFUL

Now those who tend to think in the negative direction get this habit might be because they are more influenced by negative people. Someone close to them might be thinking negatively. Many negative thinkers think that they are more realistic in life and they also think that they are more secure because they think of all the possible problems which can happen in the future.

The greater the level of integration between the four dimensions of mind, the happier we will be with ourselves and we will have much more satisfying relationships with others. This way it works best and most effectively and wisely. The person who has a consistency between what he does feels, says and thinks is a wise man.

When we practice daily to command our logical mind to think in a positive direction, we become positive thinking individuals. Now one very important point to note here is everything in this world is half full and half empty. Now it only depends on us how do we want to perceive it.

Dealing with mean, hurting and negative people is a reality of life, that life is sometimes unpleasant. These not-so-nice groups can be different levels of mean, varying from sharp to semi-cranky, to straight-up irritable and offensive. You may encounter them in either work, life, or even both. Mean people can be passive, threatening, passive-aggressive, or brash, confrontational, directly on your face.

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So how to handle negative People without hurting yourself?

• How to handle negative people: 1. DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY – DONT TAKE THEIR WORDS TO YOUR HEART: This is a complex one but it’s equally important when learning how to deal with offensive people. It’s really difficult not to take their bad words personally, but the fact is, they have no idea about your life. Even they might be going through a hard time and may have no support. Just like you don’t know them, they don’t know you. So any conversation you have is not personal and shouldn’t be taken as one. Negative people try to deteriorate your self-image. They try to say negative things about your attitude and character. They have gone to negating thinking loop. It’s not what they are saying but what we are thinking about our self.
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• How to handle negative people: 2. YOU HAVE CONTROL: It’s up to you if you’re going to let the negativity of someone else get to you, even if you are compelled to fight with them. You have the control and choice about how they affect you. You don’t have to welcome these types of people or this negative energy, but you may also never know what the other is going through. This person may have had a harsh upbringing or may be going through some problem that may be making them act in such a way. Many times because of some bad past experiences people behave negatively we need to understand experiences in the past which are making them negative. We have to understand their situation and keep our self positive. We have to look beyond the current situation.
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• How to handle negative people : 3. REMEMBER YOUR IDENTITY: You are not like them. As said earlier, you have to keep your cool and you don’t have to be mean back. Outside of personal communications, setting emotional barriers is also important, so that you only give as much of yourself to that person as needed. tell them when they cross any lines. it is the best course of action. For example, mean people are not usually trustworthy, and because of this, you do not owe them your personal self and any love. be nice but not naive. We have to understand that it’s not what others are doing to us it’s all about what is happening inside us. Whatever other people are saying we have to keep our self-image positive by repeating the positive statements to ourselves.
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• How to handle negative people: 4. STAY CALM AND COLLECTED: Such people want to make you angry, take a moment to breathe and calm yourself. don’t let such people get in your mind. The calmer and unaffected you will be able to make a better and a wise decision on how you’re going to react. We have to make sure that we don’t react to negative people negatively. We have to respond to them positively only. By reacting negatively things will become worse. We must make sure that we should not add to their hurt.
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• How to handle negative people: 5. BE THE BIGGER PERSON: look closely into the situation that has you dealing with the said mean person. Then make a list only focusing on the interaction with the said person and the factors that you can control. This will allow you to close things on your end rather than creating a situation that will lead to a confrontation. if we have a good positive self-image then we can help other by giving positive thought so that they can change negative thought process to a positive one. But to make this happen we must have perfect self-control in our thought. In a negative situation also we must keep our self positive. In this case, we are the bigger person than the other individual as we have very good control.

Now what if we are the negative individual which means that we go into a negative loop again and again very easily. Even a small negative event in life can make us negative and we react negatively. We must look for a permanent fix rather than a temporary fix. Temporary fixes like listening to music, taking a walk, watching movies, reading something interesting, or diverting our mind by any way from negativity.

Instead, we should fix it permanently by having full control of our logical minds. Controlling a logical mind means we can command our mind to think in a positive direction whenever it is going in a negative direction. Let say someone is abusing it will make us think negative but we must be able to come out of that situation and try to find some positive thought which we say to our self and which lead us in a positive direction.

Controlling our thought is the only permanent way to solve this problem. But this comes with practice. We need to analyze situations when we went into the negative direction and write down all the positive thought which could have helped you. Now next time in those situations we have to use those positive thoughts and help ourselves.

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