How to reach a consensus
Many a time both in the family and at the workplace, don’t you find that people are agreed to final motives but are fighting on how to achieve it? How to reach a consensus?
For example: At the workplace in a team they all have one goal as a team which everyone agrees let say for an example profit in this quarter but all have their own ways to achieve it and they are not able to find the final way? Or in the family let say they all have to enjoy vacation but they don’t know how to enjoy it whether to go for traveling or stay at home?
How to reach consensus in family and at workplace
So we have seen that we all come into a situation where the final objective is the same but the ways to achieve it are many and all of the involved team members feel that their way is the right way and are not able to reach a consensus within a team and in the family.
If you want to learn how to lead a healthy conversation to reach a consensus for any conflict either at the workplace or in the family then do read this blog. As I have said earlier that all have a different mindset because all of us have read different books and met different people in life so all of us has our own mindset and that why we all have a different path to reach to a particular result !!!
All of us think that our own way is correct. In a team we have to take a defined set path to reach a result it cannot be that all the different members of the team are trying different things to reach the same result because it will be highly ineffective !!! In the family also all have to do the same thing together!!! So we see that the conflict is unavoidable because all of us have a different mindset.
Many times I have seen most of us want to avoid have discussions in conflict situations because they think that if they will discuss such topics then they might hurt another person and another person might dislike him or her or might be misunderstood or completely reject him or her. So they find better not to discuss these conflicting things and they don’t share their thought and feelings.
Now there are other people who want to involve but they handle it very badly and end up not getting any result or end up in a fight or end up in deciding something which will not yield the best result or end up in not getting help from the team members because they don’t find the way useful and fruitful and that impact the result !!!
I am explaining to you how to reach a consensus when these conflicts arise. The first thing is we must respect another person’s mindset. We must have positive thoughts that another person has some good points to add to reach the final goal. Before we go and start the conversation we must have this in mind. this will set the right mindset to have a healthy conversation. So the goal must be a win for both parties means both parties want to achieve the result and both have important inputs for figuring out the ways to achieve it !!!
So once you have set your mind towards a win for both parties now we must go and speak to another person immediately. We must not procrastinate. If we delay resolving the conflict that it will only increase !! We all have bitterness from our past when we have the conflict discussion and it didn’t work out well and because of that we all want to avoid it but we have to go and face it otherwise things will become worse and later it will create a big problem.
When we are in this world where we have to work with another individual at the workplace and in the family then we must be ready to go and speak to others for resolving the conflict for that time it will be hard but it’s always better in the future !!! If we will not resolve it fast it will create bigger problems in the future !!! When we are discussing with another first try to understand their viewpoint.
We must not be just suggesting our way instead we must keenly listening to other’s person way. Because if we will not try to understand their viewpoint then in our mind we have only our and then we will be trying to push our way and that leads to heated discussion. So we must ready to listen to their viewpoint and now we have our mindset and their viewpoint now we must evaluate both to figure out the final solution When we also are trying to put our point then we must do it in a positive way.
Our way could be that first describes the situation and the problem that situation is causing as per you. then if that situation is because of another person of you team action then state that which of their action is causing this and then explain that why this problem is hurting you the most.
Don’t try to directly jump on accusing person just explain the situation properly. Now once you have put your point and listened to others also not let everyone try to come to final conclusion by you encouraging others to suggest the final solution. When they suggest the solution then they own it and they will work on it.
The final way will be sometimes a mixture of all the team member inputs. When you encourage others to find the final solution then they will also understand the problem better and work on all the inputs well.
Finally, once you find the final way out then we must make an action play to achieve it and the action plan must include :
1. Clear identification of the issue
2. Agreement to solve the issue
3. Concrete steps that demonstrate the issue has been resolved
4. An accountability structure such as a timeline and a responsible person 5. A deadline for completion
6. A commitment by both parties to put the issue in past once resolved So u see successful conflict resolution changes both people not just one
I have learned this from the book “winning with people” by john maxwell. You can also order this book by clicking the link Winning with people
After reading how to get consensus you can also read: https://sudarshanpurohit.com/how-to-overcome-fear-of-losing-a-game/