4 simple ways of controlling anger
We become angry either by negative people if they say something negative to us or by the negative result of our actions like if we lose a game or by a negative incident that happened to us like our car broke down in between or by material things like we could not get food as per your taste. Now, whenever we get angry our temperature increases, our tone changes and we don’t see the total picture, we don’t see the timing and we just outburst with full negative energy.
Remember the outburst with fill negative energy has a direct impact on our health because of anger our immune system deteriorate, chances of heart attack increase, we might get a mental stroke, we might go into depression, it impacts our lungs also and ultimately it reduces our life span. Anger has a very bad impact on our health and others health who are facing our anger.
So here are the ways of how to control your anger well
1. Whenever we face a negative incident what we usually do is we try to think of all the negative things that happened in past and by that we become more negative. Keep past incidents in past and don’t exaggerate the situation by thinking of all the past negative incidents.
2. Whenever we are angry try not to take any physical action. When we are angry we are full of negative energy and we take wrong action and decisions that time. This action which we take when we are angry to hamper our relationship in the long term because actions are remembered more than words.
3. the best way to control anger is by thinking positively and not letting negative thoughts control your mind at all. One good positive statement which I use is it’s not the action it’s the response that makes the difference. Whatever negative has happened to me the only thing which will make the difference will be how do I respond to it.
If I will be responding it positively then the situation will be better and if I will respond negatively then the situation will be worse. Like to make sound by clapping we need both the hand if one hand is higher than the other then we will not be able to make a sound. So if one person is higher which means if he is positive then he will be able to control the situation.
Another positive statement is that we must always keep relationships higher than the situation. however, another person is behaving I will never let my relationship hamper by reacting negatively. I will forgive my family members for their mistakes because I will keep the relationship higher than the situation. I will not think negatively about my family members. To learn how to keep a relationship higher than a situation you can see my video on how to improve relationships?
4. Let say if we were not able to control ourselves and became negative in these negative situation and outburst then the only option left with us is asking for forgiveness. When we ask for forgiveness it’s not that we will become lower than another person it just that we mean relationship more than that situation. We can actually ask for forgiveness because we also became negative at that time. If we were able to keep ourselves positive then we would not have got the anger and there was no fight.
I have learned controlling anger from one famous book by John Maxwell “winning with people” you can buy that book at Winning with people . Use the points I mentioned in my video and not let any negative situation make you angry. bye-bye.
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