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How to take input from other people?
I.e., People's opinon - how do we define it?
An opinion is a judgment, viewpoint, or statement that is not conclusive, rather than facts, which are true statements.
How does it feel to take-in people’s opinion? Why people’s opinion matters?
Other people’s inputs or people’s opinions are always not welcomed for us. We really don’t like anybody to interrupt, right?
Most of the times we don’t like people giving us silly opinions because we feel like we don’t want them or we often feel that we had thought about that idea a long time before. As we are growing us, we are getting or and more opinions from a lot of people. Starting from our relatives to our professors and friends. Everybody tries to show us what is wrong or what is right.
Distinguishing facts from opinion is that facts are verifiable, i.e., can be agreed to by the consensus of experts. An example is: “United States of America was involved in the Vietnam War,” versus “United States of America was right to get involved in the Vietnam War”. An opinion may be supported by facts and principles, in which case it becomes an argument. Therefore, it’s really important to know the difference.
Somebody explaining you the facts is not their opinion. We have romanticized all these problems so much that we have forgotten how to use other people’s opinion in the right way. Therefore, in this article, I would like to discuss few things on opinions or other people’s input.
First of all, in order to learn something, we need to make our mind clear. To acquire positivity and knowledge, it is significant for you to be open and ready to learn something new every day. If you keep on growing your knowledge, your inner light will brighten itself and help to understand situations well.
The state that we all are in is simply called “illusion”. You might feel terrible when I say this, but this is the truth. Now, instead of being so modern and hi-tech, what is lacking in us? Why have we become so deaf to our inner voice and to other people’s godly advice? The reason is our crowded mind.
Why is it Important to take input from other people?
We talk a lot, instead of full filling our actions. We spend half of the day complaining and listening to others. It can be divided in two parts. One is when people tell you that you are not up to their expectations.
But how to take that opinion is within in your hand. When, someone says something to you, THINK. Calm yourself and analyze what you are doing. Question yourself, are they right? Or, what they are saying has something to do good to you?
Ofcourse, your ego comes in the middle saying not to accept what the other person is saying but it’s good for you if sit and think for a moment that what you are doing is right. Because, you are the one who will be responsible for consequences of your life’s next moment.
How to respond when you do not agree with people’s opinions?
Well, if you feel where exactly heading you are heading in your life and know your life goals, then follow your path and do not take others’ words. Most of the time, people doesn’t say wrong, they just give feedback based on their life experiences. As the world is constantly changing you need to analyze others’ opinion before taking/rejecting it. Again, if you don’t like the opinion, you can just be quiet, which saves your energy.
In Bhagavat Gita it is written, “Krishna is the life giver as well as the life taker. He is the seed giving father of all beings including Shishupal. All beings are part and parcel of Krishna and every being must love and serve Krishna as its constitution.
Krishna is the maintainer of the beings, provider of all the necessities of all beings in all their lives at every moment. He is the summum bonum. If any being starts blaspheming Krishna for any reason, that being is harming itself because that being is blaspheming its own eternal sustainer.
So Krishna’s act of taking Shishupal’s life is actually good because he is liberating ‘Shishupal’ from such a sinful and envious life.” He defines patience as a virtue called “titeeksha” in Sanskrit. It means tolerating or bearing out something negative without losing cool. How? By constantly knowing that the odd is going to pass off as does well.
Both are time-bound. Therefore, patience is directly proportional to the knowledge. But, beyond it—when the odd is going to be a permanent affair, just throw this patience away and make a whole-hearted effort to wriggle out of that situation, with the knowledge that death is permanent, so why not fight and make an effort for life.
Likewise, when your life is at stake, fight to defend yourself. When somebody is being kidnapped, will he/she keep patience? No. She/he should lose it and make an effort for life. So, basically, be patient. Listen and if you think that those people are saying rubbish against you then keep quiet and do your work.
However, if you think that the person is highlighting your faults and weaknesses then it’s the high time that you start working on them. You will never get a better thing/incident in your life that will motivate you this way.
So, make the most of it. Utilize the taunts (a remark made in order to anger, wound, or provoke someone) that you get on a daily basis to improve yourself. Unnecessarily reacting to your taunts might make your anxious which is not good for your health because you simply lose your energy.
How to take input from other people and how it affects us?
The long-term physical effects of uncontrolled anger include increased anxiety, high blood pressure and headache. Anger can be a positive and useful emotion, if it is expressed appropriately. Long-term strategies for anger management include regular exercise, learning relaxation techniques and counselling. Anger triggers the body’s ‘fight or flight’ response.
Other emotions that trigger this response include fear, excitement and anxiety. The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol. The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.
No matter what, stop getting anxious and angry unnecessarily. Work at your best and achieve your goals. I know this sounds so unrealistic because, the moment when somebody tries to define our ability by giving us their unwanted opinions, we feel bad and angry at the same time.
This results in persisting anxiousness or anger. You can control your anger through few things though, in case you have already faced anger issues. According to Leland R. Beaumont, each instance of anger demands making a choice. A person can respond with hostile action, including overt violence, or they can respond with hostile inaction, such as withdrawing or stonewalling.
Other options include initiating a dominance contest; harboring resentment; or working to better understand and constructively resolve the issue. According to Raymond Novaco, there are a multitude of steps that were researched in attempting to deal with this emotion.
In order to manage anger the problems involved in the anger should be discussed, Novaco suggests. The situations leading to anger should be explored by the person. The person is then tried to be imagery-based relieved of his or her recent angry experiences. Conventional therapies for anger involve restructuring thoughts and beliefs to bring about a reduction in anger.
These therapies often come within the schools of CBT (or cognitive behavioral therapy) like modern systems such as REBT (rational emotive behavior therapy). Research shows that people who suffer from excessive anger often harbor and act on dysfunctional attributions, assumptions and evaluations in specific situations.
It has been shown that with therapy by a trained professional, individuals can bring their anger to more manageable levels. Thoughts, images, and feelings. “Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it’s justified, can quickly become irrational“(American Psychological Association). Even though there may be a rational reason to get angry, frustrated actions may become irrational.
Taking Deep breaths is an easy first step to calming down. Once the anger has subsided a little, accept that you are frustrated and move on. Lingering around the source of frustration may bring the rage back. Research conducted with youthful offenders using a social skills training program (aggression replacement training), found significant reductions in anger, and increases in anger control. Christians believe in God’s anger at the sight of evil.
This anger is not inconsistent with God’s love, as demonstrated in the Gospel where the righteous indignation of Christ is shown in the Cleansing of the Temple. Christians believe that those who reject His revealed Word, Jesus, condemn themselves, and are not condemned by the wrath of God.
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