How to keep ourselves fighting in difficult times and develop never die attitude?
Are you having a grief experience? Are you or have you ever
experienced a loss in your life of a romantic relationship, a friendship, a
work, a house or even a totally different kind of stressor? Whatever you
struggle with, here are some expert tips for help. Now I’m not claiming
that after reading this article all of your worries and stress will be over
but you will be equipped with some strength and positivity to fight it strongly.
First Method to develop never die attitude:
This method was used by Thomas Alva Edison one of the greatest
inventors of the world and businessman who has been described as
America’s greatest inventor. It was also used by Professor William
James “Father of Applied Psychology”. Later it was also mentioned by
Dale Carnegie one of the best coaches in the world in his book “How to
stop worrying & start living.” I recommend you to read the book. To develop good attitude in yourself you can read one famous book by John Maxwell “winning with people” you can buy that book at Winning with people
It will not oust your tension neither this article. But you will get an idea that
why worry will give you nothing but death. Strong statement..!? But
that’s true. Dr. Alexis Carrel once said, “Businessmen who do not know
how to fight worry die young.” It can be applied to everyone. Here are
some tips which can help you in fighting with difficult times.
- Write precisely what are you worrying about?
- Write down what can you do about it.
- Decide what to do i.e. choose the best solution.
- Start immediately to carry out that decision.
Now you’ll ask why writing is so important. Once Charles Kettering
said, “A problem well stated is a problem half solved.”
After the death of Thomas Alva Edison, more than two thousand
notebooks were found filled with problems and their possible solutions.
Dont quit just work on stating the problem precisely and thinking of allthe possible solution then selecting the best among them and finally implementing that solution. It makes you get the control over the problem and you will start working on solving it.
Second Method to develop never die attitude :
Acknowledge and feel your feelings- “Avoiding the negative emotion
may feel like an efficient stopgap measure, but in fact, it actually
postpones, and maybe escalates and exacerbates, a flood of negative
emotion sometimes in the future,” said John Duffy, Ph.D., a clinical
psychologist, and author. Ignoring your feelings is “like trying to run
away from someone on your back right away. The only way to be truly
safe is to pause and face the feelings, “said Hibbert, who also specializes
in mental health, postpartum problems and parenting for women.
Here are the ways on how you can fight the difficult situation and develop the never die attitude:
- Talk about it- “When people bottle up challenging situations, the
problems grow and mutate into horrible worries and anxieties,”
said Ryan Howes, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and author of the
blog “In Therapy.” So dont keep it to yourself find someone close to you to discuss about the problem. Through discussion you will feel good and will be able to face it. Many a times you will find that everyone is going through same hard feeling and that will make you think that it is just not with you it is very common feeling and most of the people face it.
- Try to see past the hardship– It’s difficult to see upside when you
are in a crisis. Yet you can see the situation with a certain distance
in a different way. Most of the time we just busy in thinking about hardship which current problem is giving you but instead we must look into what good that problem has done. Every problem is an opportunity to learn and earn.So look at the positive side of this tough situation. What good has happen because of this problem.
- Prioritize self-care- “Self-care is absolutely necessary to survive
tough situations,” said Marter, who also pens the Psych Central
blog “The Psychology of Success in Business.” “You won’t be of
any help to others if you are incapacitated,” Howes said. In difficult time dont miss your food rather have healthy diet because a healthy body can fight hard. Mostly people get depressed and dont have healthy meals and that just increase the problem instead during tough times we must focus on good diet.
- Consider if you’re experiencing a catastrophe or an inconvenience- Many a times the difficult situation is just and inconvenience but we treat that as an end of life. Often we magnify issues and turn a fixed issue into catastrophe.
The psychotherapist, writer and teacher Jeffrey Sumber of M.A.
shared a family lesson more specifically about problems. “My great grandmother gave our family a very important key to coping
with difficult situations in life. She suggested that if anything can be
fixed with money, it is not really a problem. This rule has been very
important in my life as a reminder that so often we create catastrophes where there are sometimes inconveniences.
- Practice acceptance- “Acceptance of what has happened is the 1st
step in overcoming the consequences of any miss fortune,” said
Prof. William James. Many a time we just not believe that something bad has happened to us. Through that mindset we cant work on solving that issue. So it is important to acknowledge the loss and then figuring out how to deal with it.
- Ask for help- Asking for help will not make you weak. All the family members, close relatives and professionals are here to help you. This world works when everyone is helping other person. You see all the things around us is because we all are working together. So always ask for help and if possible help others in tough situations.
- Remember that everyone heals differently- “These are their path, I
urge children and adults to tell them, and that no one can watch the
clock.” “There are different ways that everybody thinks. And in
various ways, everyone recovers.” Serani said. Dont compare yourself with other and get demoralized. We all are different and handle our problems differently so dont get carried away by what others are doing, just focus on how you can solve your problem.
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