How to overcome the fear of rejection
Life can be very harsh when it comes to success and failures, we can imply the same to highs and lows, winning and losing and the list is countless. However, have you ever given a thought to why we feel down and mourn our defeats more than the celebrations of our victories?
It’s simply because it’s not the life that is hard on us, it is we who make it hard for ourselves. For instance, we get so obsessed with the idea of winning that we don’t know how to handle losing. The apex problem is we are not willing to accept our defeats.
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In a similar fashion, today’s blog is aligned with the circumstances discussed above. Rejection is often portrayed as a negative cue but I believe it is just another advancement towards success. No wonder, rejection makes us feel dejected and hopeless, these emotions often hides the brighter side.
Regardless, it makes us strong and prepares us for the worst of situations. We need to remember one thing that nothing is going to come to us easy, nobody is going to serve us anything on a platter. Every individual has to struggle and has to face a fair share of rejections. To some, it may come at the initial stage and to others, it may come at a later stage in life. But nobody is spared.
The only way one can work through it is by embracing rejection like it is a lesson. It may sound silly but ‘it is what it is’. We can learn about stepping up our game and working on how to improvise ourselves. I wouldn’t urge somebody to overcome rejection but I’d ask all you readers to accept rejection. Well, not to bow down to it, but to derive a positive stance from it.
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Acceptance: from the very beginning I have highlighted the importance of accepting. One has to have the courage to accept rejection. It is always good to know the other side of the coin. Why? Because we tend to gain perspective and make the right judgement. One has to understand that rejection is situational and every person goes through it. It depends upon us how to view it. Hence, it is advisable to take rejection as input and drawing positivity out of it.
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Learning to say ok to ‘NO’: growing up, we find it so tough to take a ‘no’ for an answer. Right from a pre-school kid throwing tantrums to get a candy floss to a grown adult obsessing over his ex. In both cases, circumstances and the nature of the individual varies but the similarity that binds them together is ‘failure to take rejection’.
Our role models, our educators, parents, and nowadays even the influencers should put out a message explaining the concept of ‘consent’. As well as how the opinion of others matters in our daily lives. Regardless of what others say, it has to be respected concerning their freedom of speech.
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Believe in yourself: let the rejection you face today, not be a bitter experience forever. One should keep themselves open to opportunities and continue to pursue what they desire. Above all, one should believe in themselves, and as the saying goes ‘there is light at the end of the tunnel’, similarly we emerge victorious only if we have a positive attitude and self-belief.
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Learning from experience: not just this, but every bit in life is an experience to cherish, not just the highs but even the lows. While good moments teach us to be happy and not be condescending. The bad experience tutors us to be tough and to be patient. Therefore, perceiving rejection as a motivating jab will ensure resilience and keep one focused on their goals.
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Motivating factors: Humans are social animals, as a result of which we need somebody to lean on to when we are in dismay. We may look up to our peers, colleagues, and family for emotional support. These motivating factors influence us in taking decisions.
At times, they can be misleading but stressing on the third pointer, one shouldn’t let somebody else’s false judgement let them go astray and continue to have self-belief. Rather, make the right choice in selecting your inner circle. The people whom you surround yourself with, play a major role in decision making.
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Rejection is the process of making an individual competition. The component that makes it negative is one’s absence of acceptance. These are the type of people who are timid, who do not want to face the reality or are running away from facts. They are overconfident, arrogant and they have an ‘I am the best’ attitude. Which is good, but they think that nobody can be better than them. These traits contribute to the failure of acceptance. Hence, one has to realise that they cannot be ‘the jack of all trades’ and you know the rest of it.
Rejection or disapproval is an essential part of individual growth. One should not view it as an obstacle but rather a challenge or a chance to prove themselves. If we are the gen z kids, then we need to be smart enough to understand that not just the victories but the losses have to be celebrated as well.
Embracing the failures and being adaptable to change is a wiser decision. Besides, who knows the rejection at this stage is a cue for something amazing waiting for us. I’ll conclude the blog with an enlightening quote by John Paul DeJoria which says
‘’ The biggest hurdle is rejection…Be ready for it.
The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is,
Successful people do all the things,
Unsuccessful people don’t want to do.
When 10 doors are slammed in your face, go to door no. 11 enthusiastically,
With a smile on your face.’’
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